Patches & Me
Tenacious Living
The Early Years After my husband died in 2005, is when Patches came into our lives.  A puppy at the time, Patches had wandered up on a coworker’s farm. This coworker had enough animals and didn’t want any new additions to their family. Thinking of my son, the coworker asked if I wanted a new dog to help with his grieving the loss of his dad. Needless to say, I couldn’t say no.  We met to get Patches and bring her home.  Getting a new dog brought a little joy into our dark lives at the time. We took her …
My Story and Struggles Parenting An ADHD Child
ADHD in Children
Pregnancy and Pre-ADHD This is my story and struggles of parenting an ADHD child.  Our road has definately  has been that of  A Road Less Traveled by Scott Peck When I was pregnant, I had all the confidence in the world that I was going to do this “parenting” thing right!   One thing I had learned as a child of a manic depressive mother, was how not to parent.  Our child was going to be showered with all the love I never had and would never feel unwanted or unloved like I had.   My patience was going to be that of a …
The Remote Control – What Buttons Are You Pushing?
Tenacious Living
I realized how much  the remote control resembles our lives when attending a support group.  It was then I realized how our thoughts and behaviors mimic a remote control – Rewind, Fast Forward, Pause.  How much control do these buttons have in your life?  They have a lot of control in my life.  Having gotten better over the years, I still struggle.  Once I made this realization, it became easier for me to decipher what stage I am at in any given day, since each day is different, and how to proceed. One day, I am confident in my own …
Have You Encountered A Narcissist?
Grief
How you can tell if you have encountered a narcissist is after the relationship you are left no self-esteem, have no confidence left, feel as if you can’t make a simple decision and second guess yourself constantly.  You are used to being lied to from the narcissist and having them play emotional mind games with you, which leaves you second guessing yourself.   According to Psychology Today  the narcissist has little empathy for people, a grandiose personality and a need for admiration.  My experience with the narcissist found this all to be true.              My …
Losing My Tenacity – The Adult ADHD Way
Tenacious Living
Losing My Tenacity  For the past few days, I have not been living a tenacious life.  I knew this when I could feel myself sinking my downward spiral after a conversation I had with my alcoholic sister.   Responding and not reacting is progress.  This spiral only lasted a few days instead of a few weeks which is signs of further progress.  Within my Adult ADHD brain, I react to things differently and I am trying to unlearn years of learned patterned behavior. The last phase of training  at work has started and has sent my Adult ADHD brain into …
July 4th and Your Recovery
Alcoholism
What does the 4th of July and Recovery Mean To You This is different for each one of us.  First of all, I think about the people who have served our country and I thank them from the bottom of my heart for their service to our country.  The Fourth of July holiday means fireworks, cookouts, swimming, relaxing and spending time with family.  Hence, as I drive up to spend time with my family this year, I realize the progress in my own recovery. During my last visit, I shared with my aunt how hurt I was over my sister’s …